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Authentic apologies

Tuesday, January 3rd, 2017

Recently I read an excellent article written by Dr. Harriet Lerner in the November/December issue of Psychotherapy Networker magazine. In it she discussed the challenge of offering a sincere apology when faced with criticism. Being criticized makes up feel vulnerable and judged, and apologizing to the protagonist may be the last thing we want to […]

Making Your Own Happiness

Saturday, June 4th, 2016

How can we make our happiness? What does that mean? First we have to decide if happiness is an end goal or a fluid state of mind. If getting an A on a test makes you happy, does that mean you are not happy while you are studying for the test? When you see a […]

I Make My Own Happiness

Tuesday, March 15th, 2016

What does it mean to “make my own happiness”? It is so easy to blame something or someone for our state of mind. Our upbringing, past abuse, trauma, physical limitations, loss, poverty – all are fair game for being given responsibility for our satisfaction in life. How easy it is to say, “Of course I’m […]

Asking for what you need

Thursday, February 11th, 2016

Last month I spoke about bravery, and recognizing it in others.  For some of us, one of the bravest  things we can do is to ask for what we need. We may consider this to be an act of selfishness, putting our needs before others, being self-centered. However, becoming strong and independent requires a certain […]


Tuesday, January 19th, 2016

Sometimes I think that my bravest clients are those who are considering changing something fundamental about themselves. My first thought was of my transgender clients. The challenges they face are practically unimaginable to people who have not experienced such thought, which adds to their sense of isolation. Even with support and validation it is a […]


Sunday, January 10th, 2016

A friend once summarized her guiding principle in life in this way: It’s better to be kind than to be right. While that sounds fairly simple, in reality it is far from easy to adopt. Being right often brings immediate gratification and at least temporarily boosts our self-esteem. It is self-validating and establishes our superiority […]

Miracles May Happen

Monday, October 26th, 2015

Miracles May Happen No one should depend on a miracle to save them. If a miracle has saved you once, you must not depend on a miracle to rescue you a second time.  – Zohar 21   What is really a miracle? Some of us see miracles every day. We see the birth of a baby, the […]

Listening: The Best Form of Therapy

Sunday, August 2nd, 2015

Are you proud of your ability to multi-task? Can you listen to the radio, wash the dishes and talk to a friend at the same time? Perhaps you can…but when you are done with the washing, program and conversation, do you ever feel somewhat dissatisfied? Truly listening is a gift that you give not only […]

When Is The Time For Hope?

Sunday, July 12th, 2015

We have all had dark moments, periods in our lives when we question our reason to go on, even to live. Some of us suffer through longer and more frequent periods than others. The longer these periods continue, the harder it is to feel they could ever end. So when is the right time to […]

Overcoming Powerlessness – Three Initial Steps

Thursday, April 30th, 2015

We have all felt powerless at one time or another. For some it is an occasional occurrence when a person or situation makes us feel out of control, such as a criticism by a supervisor or a traffic jam. Others find themselves facing this feeling on a daily, almost ongoing basis, especially if trapped in […]

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