Divorce – The Beginning of the “New Abnormal”

Sunday, March 15th, 2015

People sometimes compare a divorce to a death. While that may be true for some, for others a divorce feels more like a life sentence. The couple may have unresolved issues that linger long after a separation occurs. Confusing feelings of hurt, anger, loneliness and resentment exist simultaneously. Finding others who are going through a painful divorce helps validate and affirm these emotions. It’s a difficult journey but will be made easier if not made alone. Find a group near you and begin to define your new life.

Now It’s Your Turn

Saturday, January 31st, 2015

This will be the last blog on this topic, at least for now. It has been a mind-stretching journey, tortured and teased me in equal measure. I strongly encourage everyone to try looking at at least 31 things you do on a regular basis in a new and creative way, then try it. Surprising results may occur!


Creatively Defining Yourself

Friday, January 30th, 2015

If you were to define yourself as an animal, could you pick just one? Do you see yourself as different creatures at different times? Would you choose the animal you would most like to be, or do you see yourself as a less-than-desirable species? Answering these questions may tell you something about how you see yourself now and how you would like to see yourself ideally.

Blogging for Self-Discovery

Thursday, January 29th, 2015

As the end of January draws near, it becomes evident to me that the number of ways we can express ourselves is truly endless. It ranges from the profound to the absurd (pig latin being an example of the latter). In two days  I will pause this journey. In the meantime I offer this for today: start a blog. Pick a topic and stick with it for one month. I guarantee you will learn something about yourself.

Never too old to learn something new

Wednesday, January 28th, 2015

Learning a new skill or information can give us a different view of ourselves and our capacity. Becoming knowledgeable about a period in history you never studied before, taking a course in auto mechanics or studying German verbs may open up thoughts and ideas you hadn’t know existed before. Many free courses are available on-line; homework is optional!

How’s Your Feng Shui?

Tuesday, January 27th, 2015

One easy way to express yourselfwith little effort and no cost is to rearrange your office or living space. Feeling overwhelmed, anxious? Declutter, hide your piles by putting them in a box or under a cloth. In a positive mood? Place a plant or colorful vase in a prominent position. Shifting our everyday items around gives us a new perspective and helps us to face what we are experiencing in a fresh way. Hope it flows well for you today.

Feeling From the Outside In

Monday, January 26th, 2015

When you react to a situation, you immediately notice your own emotions. There may be physical sensations, such as a tightening in the chest, feeling flushed, clenching the fists. Try instead to be aware of the emotions outside of you, i.e. the level of tension in the room, others’ awareness of the circumstances, even the temperature of the air and weather conditions. Consider which of these and other factors are contributing to your reaction. Allow the emotions outside of you to temper and/or compliment those inside.

Creatively Defining Yourself

Sunday, January 25th, 2015

January 24

Find a new way to fit exercise into your day. The benefits will go far beyond the improvement in health and fitness. Changing our routine gives us hope, pleasure, the chance to let go of negative or oppressive thoughts, even if only briefly. Not much time is required – hold a  plank position for 30-seconds, walk up stairs, run in place for a minute. Observe any changes you feel.


January 25

How we communicate with others can greatly affect our mood. Many of us get frustrated when our texts/emails/calls don’t get answered as quickly as we would like. Trying a different wayto connect, say through snail mail, sending a card, leaving messages that do not require an answer, just to check in, or giving an unexpected gift, may change the dynamics between you. At any rate, it will certainly improve your mood.

Creatively Defining Yourself

Friday, January 23rd, 2015

January 22

Some religions encourage daily appreciation of bodily functions, e.g. our ability to walk, stand, see, hear, eliminate. Consider thanking whatever power you accept for something new every day.


January 23

Weather affects us all differently. Many of us feel depressed or low when the weather is gray or cold for long periods of time. Practice imagining yourself in a warm, sunny place, sipping a cool drink at the beach or riding horseback in an open field. Alternatively, if you crave snow or cooler temperatures, go sledding down a long steep hill.

Creatively Defining Yourself

Wednesday, January 21st, 2015

January 21

Making changes becomes more difficult the older we get. Yet it is this very effort that can give us the most powerful sense of hope and encouragement, not to mention reducing the likelihood of the onset of dementia. Minor changes, such as altering the path we walk or drive or finding a new place to meet a friend, can make a big difference in the long run. Such actions remind us that we have the ability to change, which may encourage us to look at larger and more formidable actions. Find something little to approach in a new way today.

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