Sunday, January 10th, 2016

A friend once summarized her guiding principle in life in this way: It’s better to be kind than to be right. While that sounds fairly simple, in reality it is far from easy to adopt. Being right often brings immediate gratification and at least temporarily boosts our self-esteem. It is self-validating and establishes our superiority or at least our intelligence and competence.

So what does being kind do for us? Is that the right question? Perhaps we should be asking what being kind does for others. Let’s examine that. Being kind allows others to feel validated, to save face, to be “right”, even when they are wrong. It gives us space to pay attention to what is important, and what really matters. More often than not, what matters is not how we look to others, but how we make them feel.

Give kindness a chance. And most important of all, be kind to yourself.

One Response to “Kindness”

  1. i think sometimes iit is harder to be kind to ourself than to is difficult for me especially after i break 1 of my own rules.forgiving myself allows me to be kind to others.i was taught to treat others the way i want to be treated. that would be with kindness

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